Most kids get their first phone
before they’ve reached grade 7. Usually
they get it for the ‘phone’ aspect of the device so they can let their parents
or caregivers know that they’ve arrived at school safely or so that they can
make arrangements for an after school pick up or a play date with a
friend. The cell phone used to be a communication
device for safety but in today’s world, it has become so much more.
Today, it is rare to find a phone
that is just a phone. Kids are still
using their devices for communication, no question, but they are using apps
such as Instagram, Facebook and Snapchat.
These apps allows kids to communicate visually with one another to share
ideas and express emotions and from time-to-time, touch base with their parents
or caregivers. These platforms allow
kids to highlight and share their successes, sense of humour, what they are
doing during the day and allows them to form study groups which helps them at
school. If used properly, all of this
sounds very positive…doesn’t it?
So why is it if you search the
term ‘social media and self-esteem’ in Google, almost every article that comes
up reports that self-esteem and self-worth diminish after spending time on
social media? Studies show that many adolescents obsess over ‘likes’,
‘followers’, ‘re-tweets’. People tend to compare themselves and their life
situations with one another. They are
preoccupied with their social status and whether or not others have seen their
posts and what they are saying about them. How
Facebook Can Amplify Low Self-Esteem/Narcissism/Anxiety, The
Dangerous Relationship Between Social Media and Self-Worth, How Using Social Media Affects Teenagers. Students are not
concentrating on their school work because their phones keep chiming and they
are curious to see what is happening and who is trying to reach them. They don’t want to miss a thing.
I have developed and provided
workshops to adolescents and adults connecting body image to self-esteem and,
by extension, self-esteem to social media.
Through conversations and written reports, I have discovered that although
pre-teens and middle school aged children have a healthy and good understanding
of social media, they are just beginning to exhibit mentally unhealthy habits. Twelve
and thirteen year olds seem to be following healthy feeds and do not care
significantly if they have a high number of followers or not. It does not matter at all if they lose
followers or not and they do not compare themselves to their friends. But when asked why they post what they do the
two main reasons were to 1) make others happy and 2) to make others jealous.
It seems that it is at this age
that the tables are starting to turn.
Half of the subjects wrote that physical attractiveness plays moderately
into how many social media ‘friends’ a person has and though they report that
it does not matter to them how many friends they have, almost all when asked
‘Do you think that people with more followers/friends are happier people?’ they
reported that they were ‘not sure’.
If it is true that social media can
turn into a negative, competitive and self-loathing experience, we need to
reach kids at this age to help them remember to support their friends by
pressing ‘like’ and leave positive comments to lift one another’s
self-confidence. It is important to
remind them to surround themselves with people who make them smile, laugh and
feel good too. This is the correct way to communicate using social media.
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